Sunday, September 16, 2012

Learning to Be Lost

What should I do? Where should I go? I owe my heart to the current of change. Sometimes I feel like I’m stumbling through life like a blind man walking around a busy street, tripping off the bus, bumping, into the sidewalk, and piously and graciously, not without some self-deprecating humor, asking humbly for some kind soul to hold my arm and steer me to the other side of the river, over the bridge. Let me not be given the answer right away. Nor give me back my sight. At least not yet. Let me be blind, if only for a while, so that I may learn to feel my way, so that I may learn to know who I am and learn to trust that. Let me look to find my vision. What do I need to see? Who am I? Sometimes I feel like life should be something different than it is. You ever think that? Sometimes I feel that the events should have happened differently and that somewhere I made a wrong turn, not because I’m in a bad place but because I’m somewhere different than where I thought I’d be. The truth is this is where I am. The events in life have happened as they have and here I am, right here typing these words. I guess the question is what am I going to do with what I have here? As I look around what I have is opportunity. Possibilities. How can I invite my resources and creativity to help me discover my way? In this landscape I see friends and family who love me. I’m grateful for that. I see great business partners at a business I love doing work that I love. I feel blessed. So to find my way I close my eyes, like the blind man I suppose, and work on my inner-self first. I find myself on my yoga mat. I FIND myself on my yoga mat. My faith is trusting that everything else will grow out of that part of Self I discover there in yoga and meditation. Don’t force it. Just watch the windows and doors that open and walk through those that feel right. Back to what I’m supposed to do: learn how to feel. Learn how to trust that. Be lost. Ask directions. Ask permission. Risk a little. Keep my heart open and ask myself regularly how it feels. That’s what I should do. See you on the mat.

Monday, September 3, 2012

It's Getting Hot in Here

First, my blog is not allowing me to place paragraph breaks. I don't understand HTML language enough to put them in myself so you'll have to use your imagination for paragraph breaks. Sorry. I stepped into my first yoga class (late) more than a dozen years ago wearing tight jean shorts, sporting a Pilates mat, and thinking that we were going to mediate the entire time. 60 minutes later, (wait, 55 minutes later because I was late) I left a sweaty mess, humiliated by how inept I was at practically everything including Savasana, and wondered to myself, “What was that?” A dozen years later I’m still asking the same question. I suppose that it was this desire to understand yoga that kept me coming back to it. At first, I thought yoga came from Japan or Malaysia or something. I began attending yoga workshops and trainings to learn more and answer the mystery. What was this thing and why did I feel so great when I finished? When I attended a local teacher’s master class at the gym, I was floored by her ability to illustrate and guide me through yoga’s range and depth of fluid, dynamic postures. I was stunned by how physical it had been and left thinking, “Ah! This is yoga.” This began a careful and dedicated study with this teacher as I learned to be physical and fluid. A few months later I remember leaving a class taught by a different teacher and thinking, “I don’t know what that was, but it wasn’t yoga. They didn’t even do warrior III!” My myopic vision of yoga continued until a few years later when I decided to help my teacher open a yoga studio. While researching other studios in the area, I stumbled upon two of the most skilled teachers I believe I will ever know. They led me not only through dynamic, challenging poses with mindful physical alignment cues, but flushed out the practice with a beautiful and touching spiritual theme. I truly felt the connection between my body, mind, and spirit. Again I left thinking, “Oh, this is yoga.” I began an even more serious study of yoga, this time with the beauty of the poses embellished by yoga’s rich philosophy and spirituality. I felt like I was getting a handle on what yoga was. Years later, it was September, fantastic weather in Europe. Celeste, my former wife and fellow teacher, traveled with me on our train ride from Vienna to our destination Zagreb, the capital of Croatia. Along the five-hour train ride through Slovenia, the lush countryside slid past our windows as we daydreamed of how incredible it was that we had been invited to teach yoga for six weeks at Croatia’s premier yoga studio. Over the past several years, we’d learned so much about yoga and we were thrilled to share that with our new students in Croatia. We spent most of the train ride meticulously planning every detail of our first yoga class. Unlike the idyllic, endless miles of green fields of Slovenia, Croatia met us with endless miles of chaotic graffiti along the train tracks. We stepped off the train and Croatia greeted us with its split personality. One personality, I’ll call it Vlad: drab, cold, Eastern Bloc, squat buildings, looked like there was blow-out sale on mustard colored paint sometime in 50s. Vlad decide to paint whole country to look as dog vomit. Croatia’s other personality, I’ll call it Tomo: Mediterranean like its neighbors to the west, people out lounging on the streets under colorful concourses of umbrellas enjoying a lazy café culture, ordering ice cream, desserts, or beer. Tomo was boutique shops, designer jeans, and Euro-chic. Our host found us at the train station. She introduced herself then informed us that we would be teaching our first class in only a few hours, that everyone was very, very excited to meet us and that we should prepare for a large class. We were very nervous but relaxed a little remembering that we had already created a water-tight lesson during our five-hour train ride. The studio was situated on the second floor of a beautiful, old building with large windows facing into the buzz of the main square of Zagreb. And only a few hours after getting off the train, we found ourselves in the studio, packed to the brim with curious people, eager to see us, these new American teachers who would teach all the classes at the studio for the next 6 weeks. We were eager to show our host and students all the wonderfully mindful principles we’d learned in yoga and wanted to give them a preview of what kind of bliss they would be experiencing over the next several weeks. We began our session with a somber yet brief exposition of a philosophical theme followed by a long segment of skillful breathing techniques. Next, we set into tag-team teaching a steady yet conscious sequence of asanas. We moved through thoughtful sun salutations, some well-chosen, carefully aligned standing poses, deliberate tension relieving poses, a handful of hip-openers, and then eased slowly into a long mediation before finally resting in savasana. As I walked around the jam-packed room directing poses and making adjustments, I’m thinking to myself, “We are knocking them dead! This is some good shit! We will probably recognized by the president of Croatia and be granted automatic Croatian citizenship because of our awesome display of skillful yoga teaching.” We left the studio that night very excited about our next six weeks. The next day, our host asked us to come over to the studio. She sat us down and told us very soberly that the class we taught the previous night was the perfect example of how NOT to teach at that studio. She informed us that “the students were people who had been working very hard all day and the last thing they needed was to come to yoga class so that someone would tell them to breathe.” The word “Breathe,” hissed out of her mouth with a sneer as if the mere notion of breathing were ridiculous, outdated, and disdainful. Our host announced that she herself almost walked out on the class. Then she handed over a list of poses that she wanted us to teach in every class. This was hard to swallow because she wasn’t a yoga teacher, that’s why she hired us and flew us out to Croatia. She’d even hired a previous instructor to fly to Utah from her home in NYC to watch us teach and who gave us glowing reviews. Before she ended our curt meeting, she said, “Oh, and play these when you teach,” then she tossed us a few CDs of pop and R&B music. We were crushed. Devastated. We thought we had a handle on yoga and could share some of the magic of what we thought yoga was to these students. We felt that we had practiced yoga and trained and therefore had acquired some sort of keen insight into yoga, its capacity for mindfulness and dynamism and therefore had something to offer to our Croatian friends. That’s why they flew us over there, right? Not simply to hurl them through poses. One could buy a DVD for that. It was clear that they were not interested in yoga’s mindfulness, its breath and calming techniques, or its beautiful history or philosophy. They wanted raw physicality. As I looked around the studio I saw a room full of supermodels and athletes, all with seemingly perfect physical features and muscular, toned bodies. This physical ability made them overly confident in the ability to safely explore intense yoga poses. The studio was only a few months old and the practice of yoga was relatively new to all but one or two of these eager students. My plan was to use the next six weeks to slowly reveal and practice the principles of alignment, mindfulness, and breath to ease them into the deeper asanas so that they could build strength and physical integrity with the poses and avoid injuries. The studio owners had a different plan. Their plan was simple: Fast. Furious. Intense.
One night I found myself living out a surreal moment. I was teaching the advanced class scheduled on a Tuesday from 8:30-10 pm, advanced because some of these students had studied yoga for as much as four months and they were ready for intense and technical poses like Scorpion Handstand and drop backs (dropping into a backbend from a standing position). The class was steaming hot from breath and sweat and was bursting at the seams, packed with gorgeous, athletic, sweaty bodies wearing scant clothing, all of them cranking through poses. The lights were off and the room was bursting with strobes of colors from the Jumbotron-esque marquee flashing ads outside the window in the busy square. The place felt more like a dance club than a yoga studio. The hip-hop music was thumping so loud that I had to literally scream as loud as I could just to hear myself. The scene went something like this: Stereo: (boom, boom, boom) It’s gettin’ hot in here . . . Me: UUUUP DOG!!!! Stereo: (boom, boom, boom) Let’s take off all our clothes Me: DOOOOWN DOG!!! Me: (in regular speaking tones, completely inaudible under the music) How in the HELL did I get myself into this situation?! Months later, at home, I was bemoaning the atrocities of this experience to one of my teachers. I complained how appalling it was that they called what we did yoga. I was expecting to get a sympathetic pat on the back but instead my teacher thought for a moment then suggested that after a decade of civil war, perhaps fast and furious was exactly the kind of yoga that those people needed. I stood there for a moment . . .slack-jawed . . . as my brain almost hemorrhaged from the notion that yoga could be bigger than what I’d thought it was. Wait, it can still be yoga even with hip-hop music, scant-clad supermodels, and dance club lighting? It doesn’t have to be Sanskrit words, deft breathing techniques, and meticulous physical alignment cues? Lucky, my brain didn’t explode. I survived. And ever since, my definition of yoga has been growing larger and larger. As I continue to learn about what yoga is, I realize that yoga is everything I thought it was, but is exponentially much more than that. The discovery that yoga is so much bigger than “Calm Yoga Voice” instructing people into mindful poses has actually freed me to explore, practice, and present yoga with broader brushstrokes, sometimes moving playfully outside of the lines. So I suppose the karmic wheel made its full turn the day I decided to host my first GLOWGA workshop. GLOWGA is where I invite us all to paint ourselves in glow-in-the-dark paint, to turn off the lights and practice in complete and utter darkness, all the while cranking the music as we get down! and practice finding the light even in life’s darkest moments. It’s enlightening, spiritually moving, and gobs and gobs of fun. Apparently, my Croatian friends had quite a bit to teach me about the definition of yoga. Since then, my personal definition of yoga continues to grow. I’ve come to understand that yoga is bigger than any singular practice, any religion, any culture or ideals. Yoga is bigger than yoga. The more I learn about and practice yoga the more my definition of it needs to expand to fit all of its possibilities. My current working definition of yoga is: yo•ga noun \ˈyō-gə\ The process of learning who I am by the practice of listening. Anything smaller than this broad definition, in my mind, seems to diminish yoga’s full capacity. I’m sure I’ll have to distil this definition yet more but for the moment, it suffices. So, it seems to me that one could practice yoga while walking their dog, meditating, having a conversation with someone, making love, running, or doing anything. One teacher once told me, the asana is what we do and yoga is how we do it. I like that. I suppose yoga is an invitation into “how,” an invitation into the practice of deep listening and eventual understanding. I like that it’s a practice, that we don’t ever perform a yoga recital. I suppose that yoga’s culminating moment would be enlightenment or complete understanding, or something. Part of my practice is trying to figure out what that even means. And I think that’s enough. I think that it’s a form of deep understanding simply to know that the work, the practice, is the goal. In the mean time I will use all the tools I have. I’ll use mindfulness, deep breathing, and skillful physical alignment in poses. And sometimes, I’ll also use loud music, sweat, and anything else that catches my attention and moves my soul. That’s yoga, too. Scott Moore co-owns and teaches at Prana Yoga Trolley Square in Salt Lake city ( and writes regular for his blog,